It really is true that everything happens for a reason. At first, you may not understand it, and you may even be angry, or upset by events that are going on.....but one day, when you look back, it will all make sense. It will be like an epiphany!!! You will feel better than you have in awhile and be better off for it. Before my divorce in 2007, a co-worker gave me a poem. I have always remembered it, though sometimes I felt that the poem was wrong. I have always tried to envision what each person in my life was there for: a reason, a season, or a lifetime. It pains me to say that not everyone has been there for a lifetime (or will be there for a lifetime: don't worry, I understand), but the ones that have only been there for a brief time, I wouldn't trade it for anything. It taught me so much. It has taken me many years to feel good about where I am in life and I still struggle everyday. If life had ended up how I expected it to all the time, I would never have met the wonderful people in my life today. Looking back, I honestly don't want to envision what my life would be like right now if I had stayed where I was, never trying to better myself or my situation. I would like to share that poem with anyone that may feel like there is no hope; that life never goes the way it is suppose to. To my friends that feel that way: Embrace those feelings. Read this poem and realize that it will get better and you will be happy again. It may take time and a lot of self-exploration/soul searching.....but it WILL happen. Then you will understand why the person who had been your biggest confidant is no longer the person you run to. Someone else has stepped up to fill those shoes. Let them, and always remember:
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
I am grateful beyond words or expressions for all the people that are in my life. Thank you.
Real life, art, and other fun stuff
Life is a journey, not a destination. Sure, we have all heard it before and it has become a cliche in our society. There is truth in that statement though. When one road is closed (and anyone that drives in and around the Toledo area can verify this), there is always another route waiting to lead you to where you need to be. I've learned a lot over the past few years and I plan to document both the good times and the bad. Hopefully, through it all, I can help some other poor, lost, lonely soul that is wandering on the road called life.